Why is Play Important?

Have you ever wondered why play is important?

And not just for kids, but adults, too?

When’s the last time you took time out of your day just to PLAY?

Play?

That’s what I thought! 

As hard-working, ever-so-productive, responsible adults, most of us have slipped into the default mindset that play is for kids.

Many adults I know believe, ”the harder I work, the more successful I’ll be.”

Are you one of them?

Are you willing to test that assumption? 

Take a little challenge?

Okay, great! (If you said no, I’m simply choosing to ignore you!)

I’ve created a go-to list. 

  • Download it. 
  • Print it out. 
  • Circle the ones that resonate and light you up. 
  • Add your ideas to the list. 
  • Make copies.
  • And then at least once a day… GO PLAY!

Then tell all the other overworked, overwhelmed, and over-stressed adults in your life that need a reminder to play to grab a copy for themselves!

You may be most delighted to discover that when the creative, child-like part of you is being welcomed and celebrated, your levels of productivity and what you’re able to accomplish  are greater than you ever imagined! 

Everyone has different forms of play and what feels fun and relaxing to them.

Give yourself permission to find out! 

Play is not just for children and the benefits for adults are numerous and real.

Reduced stress, increased creativity, sharper thinking, more energy, greater happiness, increased patience…

So what are you waiting for?

For many of us, we’ve simply forgotten how to let loose, have fun, and allow ourselves to play?

No problem.

Do You Need Some Help?

Everyone has different forms of play and what feels fun and relaxing to them.

So there is no right or wrong way to play!

It’s just great that you understand why play is important and make time to do so!

So be sure to pick up my FREE 52 Ways to Take a Break Guide!

It offers a whole list of things you can do when you’re ready to PLAY!

blowing bubbles is a way to play and have fun

photo credit thanks to feliphe schiarolli

Hang the list up where you’ll see it throughout your day and remember to make the time to play!

Start with small chunks of time at first and ease into it.

And then just notice.

Are you feeling less stressed?

More creative?

Happier and more patient with your loved ones?

More energetic?

I can’t wait to hear!

Have fun and please report back!

The more people we get playing in this world, the happier we all will be!


at a speaking event with my daughter signing books

I’ve recently spent some time playing on my Speaking Page.

I updated it into a format that feels much more fun and inviting, and put everything all on one page.

In fact, when I shared it with hubby, he said, “Wow, you’ve been on all those shows?”

Exactly the response I was hoping for!

What do you think?

I can’t wait to hear!

New Speaking Page 

Do You Need Permission?

Permission to Take Care of Yourself?

Why do you need permission from someone else to take care of YOU?

I’m hearing from many of you that June is feeling busy and there’s not much time to care for self.

I remember those days when my kids were little.

I was often running on fumes in order to keep up with their seemingly unending energy and needs.

There were days when I was so exhausted my eyes wouldn’t focus properly.

Yet even on the rare occasion when the kids were quiet and resting, I wouldn’t dare take a break.

Why?

It wasn’t because I had too much to do – I always had too much to do.

Instead, I believe that denial was driven by the fear that someone might judge me for not being as productive as possible.

Honestly, I don’t know who that someone was.

Certainly not hubby.

He always reminded me, “The laundry will be there tomorrow. Take time for you.”

Still I’d imagine some fictional, well-put-together neighbor popping in, just the moment I chose to lie down.

I’d picture her shocked face and see the air bubble above her head thinking “Does she just lie around all day?”

No way was she going to catch me.

So I’d keep on moving.

Forcing myself to “suck it up” and slog through my to-do list. All the while becoming more exhausted and drained.

On the rare occasion I’d contemplate the idea of rest, the words that ran through my head were, How dare I?

a woman wrapped in a blanket giving herself permission to care for herself

photo thanks Taisiia Stupak

Boy have I come along way!!!

Today, I hardly even recognize that woman.

Because at some point along my journey, I came to know and understand that in treating myself with kindness, in acknowledging that the only one judging me was ME, I learned the incredible value and benefit of self-care.

And as a result, I became a more present, loving and patient Mom.

So these days, when I’m running on fumes and not showing up as my best self, I ask myself a very different question…

How dare I not?

I don’t need permission from anyone.

And neither do you!

I give MYSELF permission.

Happily.

And so should you!

Rest, walk, watch your favorite movie at noon on a Tuesday!

In other words, do whatever feeds your soul and allows you to show up in the fullness of you.

Go ahead! Give yourself permission!

And if you want to take it a step further, write yourself a permission slip!

It doesn’t have to be anything fancy!

A post-it note, a slip of paper, or if you have my book A Mom’s Guide to Creating a Magical Life turn to page 22 where your permission slip is waiting for you!

a picture of a permission slip

Go ahead!

Give Yourself Permission!

P.S. I’d love to hear what you’ve written on your permission slip! Shoot me an email at kasey@kaseymathews.com to share or visit my Facebook Page and leave a comment over there! and let me know! If you’re feeling it also share a photo of your permission slip!!! I can’t wait!!! XOXOXO

 

Why is Change so Hard?

A common question I’m asked in my work as a Transformational Life Coach is Why is Change so Hard?

I often hear phrases like, I try so hard to make positive changes, but they never seem to stick?

Does that sound familiar to you?

a car driving down a road representing the idea that change in hard

photo thanks liam pozz

Understanding Why Change is Hard?

Let’s see if a recent conversation with a Coaching Client offers some insight into where you may be getting tripped up.

The conversation went something like this…

I asked her what were the changes she was working on making in her life.

And she replied:

I’m trying to exercise more.

I’m trying to set better boundaries with my employees and family.

I’m trying to focus more on self-care…

Before she could go any farther down the path of listing all the changes she was trying to accomplish, I invited her to take a moment to reflect upon the energy of the word “trying.”

Be Mindful of the Language You Use

I asked her to restate the three statements she’d just made, yet the second time, removing the word “trying.”

She paused a moment, tucked a piece of hair behind her ear and looked down at her notebook.

Then she lifted her head and spoke the three sentences again:

I am exercising more.

I am setting better boundaries with my employees and family.

I am more focused on self-care.

She smiled and sat up taller in her chair.

“I get it,” she said.

Do you get it?

Language is powerful and the energy we put out in the world with the words we speak is powerful, too.

You already know I’m a little nuts about the word FINE!

Well, Trying is another word that causes me to cringe.

It’s such a wishy-washy word. A half-in/half-out word. A someday word, rather than a right-now word.

Are you still wondering why change is hard?

Then here’s my invitation to you…

Notice, what are you “trying” to change in your life and is your language aligned in support?

I am trying to be more patient with my kids vs

I am more patient with my kids.

I am trying to lose weight vs

I am losing weight.

I am trying to take time each day just for me vs

I am taking time each day just for me.

See the difference?

One simple word changes the intention from wishy-washy to clear and certain.

Your turn!

Get clear on your desires.

Then play with them and notice how a simple shift in awareness and language has the potential for profound change!

Be certain. Get clear. And reach out if you need extra support!

If you’re trying to make positive changes in your life, only to find they never materialize, this is a wonderful opportunity to stop wondering why change is so hard, bring in awareness and make positive changes that last a lifetime!

And if you need extra support or further direction, I invite you to set up a complimentary Discovery Session today.

 

How to Be More Present

As a Transformational Life Coach, many of my coaching clients are seeking ways to discover how they can be more present in their lives.

But my work doesn’t necessarily stop with my life coaching clients!

Case in point, the moment that happened recently with my sweet husband…

Presents versus Presence aka How to Be More Present

It was Mother’s Day morning.

Hubby and I were sitting side by side on the sunporch sofa, coffees in hand.

He turned toward me and said, “Is there anything you’d like for Mother’s Day?

He and our daughter had already brought a hanging basket of pink petunias home from the garden center the day before.

I leaned my head back against the couch cushion and assured him I didn’t want anything else.

But he persisted.

“I could weed the garden with you?” he suggested.

“Nah,” I said.

However he threw out a few other ideas, but then I had one of my own.

“I don’t want any things,” I told him. “No presents.”

“But the one thing I really do want is Your presence. You, just being present with me.”

I tried not to chuckle as he ran his hand through his hair and blew out a long, slow breath.

I realized this was my opportunity to teach him how to be more present!

“Didn’t you want me to trim the apple trees?” he asked. “Clean out your car?”

“You,” I said. “Being with me. Not doing  for me. Just being with me.”

Next he started strumming his fingers on the arm of the sofa.

He smiled and looked back at me with wide, pleading eyes.

Because my husband is a DOER.

Over this past year throughout isolation, he’s worked his day job and…

built a series of mountain bike trails 

ridden those trails every single morning for over 170 days in a row

taken down a tree and is currently working on the stump

seeded the lawn with clover in areas where grass refused to grow

built me garden beds with an irrigation system

pulled car parts out of his old 1970s convertible

cleaned and reorganized the garage

built a bike shop in the old shed

attached a hose to the leak in the furnace and ran it into the basement sump pump so there was no longer water leaking on the floor

turned my mountain bike into an E-bike (my new favorite!!! We have a lot of hills around here!!!)

And I could go on and on, but you get the picture!

So on Mother’s Day, he wanted to know what he could DO for me.

But he’d already done plenty.

I was asking him to stop and BE with me.

Pedaling, tinkering, building, raking, moving, doing…put it all aside for a day.

Now we’re getting somewhere!

“Well, what does that look like?” hubby asked. “How do you do nothing?”

So I went on to explain that I wasn’t suggesting we do nothing. That not doing, doesn’t mean doing nothing. In fact, it means quite the opposite.

It’s the act of doing something that from the outside looks like nothing, but actually feels like something, especially to me!

So he reluctantly agreed, even though I could tell, my ever-moving, busy husband, wasn’t quite sure what he was agreeing to.

But together we moved through our day, with a deliberate sense of presence.

We just hung out on the couch for quite a while and eventually made omelettes for breakfast. We took Georgie for a long slow walk. Sat on the rockers on the front porch. Spent time with both kids, one here at home, the other over the phone, and later, took a nap on the back patio.

By day’s end we were relaxed, at ease and looking forward to the coming week.

Hubby had asked what sort of present I was wishing for this year. And it turns out, presence, his being present to me was the best present I could have received.

Although I suspect come Father’s Day this year, they’ll be a lot of Doing in my future!


 

two rocking chairs where my husband and I sit as we learn how to be more present

photo thanks to kaleigh sawers

And you? What sort of present is most meaningful to you?

Are you are more of a Be-er or Do-er, or somewhere in between?

Can’t wait to hear!

Sending you love and blessings,

Kasey

Looking for more inspiration like this? Check out the daily posts over on my Instagram Page!

What is the Best Gift for Mother’s Day?

The best gift for Mother’s Day is the gift you give to yourself!

a beautiful heart of flower blooms the best mother's day gift

photo thanks faye cornish @unsplash

Taking an entire day for yourself and doing what makes your heart sing and lights you up!

And if you’re not a Mama to human babies, you’re an auntie, sister or dear friend to others and if we apply good old Webster’s definition of Mothering – relating to or characteristic of a mother, especially in being caring, protective, and kind…

…it’s safe to say you are Mothering in some form or another and deserve a day just for you!

So let me ask you again, What’s the plan for YOU this Sunday?​

If you just answered…

Oh, I’ll wait and see what my partner or kids come up with…

And I encourage you to be more proactive and remember the best gift for Mother’s Day is the gift you give to yourself!

Unless you’re partnered up with the world’s greatest, let’s design a day you would love!

I love a plate of syrupy (gluten-free) pancakes in bed as much as the next Mama, but we’ve all had a lot on our plates this past year, and really need abreak.

If it takes a Hallmark holiday for us to claim it, let’s milk it for all it’s worth ’cause come Monday, it’ll be back to dishes, laundry and caring for everyone else, right?​

So a few suggestions…

Sleeping till noon

A morning romantic comedy in bed

A quiet walk

A drive in the countryside with Bach streaming through the speakers

A picnic lunch in a quiet park

And for those of you that still need the reminder – Taking care of you is not selfish. The more you fill up your own cup, the more you have to share with others. 

So what makes your heart sing?

Your Day, Your Choice!

What will be the best gift for Mother’s Day that you give to yourself this year?


This is a Mother’s Day Tribute I wrote to my own mother recalling some of my favorite Mom Memories

And one of my all-time favorite parenting moments is when we as a family gathered at the lake to make a video for the release of my book Preemie Lessons in Love, Life and Motherhood.

Click on the photo to watch 

a special moment with mom and kids showing the best mother's day gift

I’ll be watching it again for sure this Mother’s Day.

 

How to Slow Down Time

Have you ever wondered how to slow down time?

Many people do!

As you’ll see, sometimes slowing down time requires a little magic…

My story of learning how to slow down time…

began back in March when our son came home for a visit.

I was bubbling with excitement over his visit and wanted to savor every moment of his time at home.

Under the “Intention” category on my Magical Living Daily Planner, I wrote “During T’s visit time feels expansive and moves slowly.”

He’d been home for three days and that had been exactly the case.

Time seemed to have slowed down…

and each day was full and joyous, with lots of time to play.

Late in the afternoon of the fourth day during his visit, we lit the big bonfire that’d been building over the previous year.

We anchored Adirondack chairs down in the snow and shared stories around the crackle of the fire.

My cheeks felt flushed and warm, and my Mama heart was alight.

The fire made us all sleepy and ready for an early bedtime.

I remember carrying the bag of snacks through the back kitchen door and glancing at the clock hanging above the stove.

I couldn’t believe how early it still was. There was still so much time left in the day!

My son, daughter, dog, Georgie Girl and I all collapsed, four abreast on our king-sized bed.

Hubby, with no room left on the bed, settled for a nearby chair.

Later that night, after the kids had headed off to their rooms and Georgie to the floor, we were tucking ourselves in and hubby said,“Looking at you on the bed with the kids, I could practically hear your heart singing.”

The following days carried on in that same slow, carefree way.

Yet, somewhere along the way as time seemed to be moving so slowly…

I discovered Magic had been at work!

Remember that clock above the stove?

Well it turns out, at some point in the midst of our play, the clock had slowed down and was 45 minutes slower than usual!

That clock is my daily time-keeper.

I can’t tell you the number of times a day I glance at that way and note the time accordingly.

So for the early days of my son’s visit, I was under the spell of that slow moving clock.

Yet, upon discovering the time discrepancy, you would think I’d have replaced the battery and moved the hands to the correct time, right?

Nope!

Instead, I left the clock just as it was.

And time continued to move in that slow, magical way for the rest of his visit.

The day after my son flew out, I placed a new battery on the kitchen counter, but there it sat for several days.

There were plenty of other clocks in the house that kept the correct time.

I chose, instead…

to stay in the magic of that luxurious, slower moving time.

a woman standing in front of a clock intending that time slows down

Photo thanks to Hannah Busing on Unsplash


Are you ready to learn how to slow down time?

For the next five days, take out the Magical Living Daily Planner and set an intention for the day.

“I am so happy and grateful that time is moving so slowly and feels so expansive…” 

Or whatever works for you in your own words!

Then just notice. 

And be open to all the Magic that may be at work in your life!


Speaking of Time…

Check out this podcast where we discuss The Role Anxiety Plays in Productivity 

 

Do You Have an Animal Spirit Guide?

Have you ever wondered if you have an animal spirit guide?

Are the creatures that cross your path offering wisdom and messages for you?

Last weekend, here in New England the weather called for beautiful and warm temps on Saturday, and cold and rainy on Sunday, so I planned accordingly.

We had lots of outdoor playful activities planned for Saturday and the boring, indoor “have-to-do-household” activities for Sunday.

So Saturday brought a long morning bike ride, playing in the garden and an outdoor dinner with neighbors we hadn’t seen in ages…

and I awoke Sunday, feeling played-out and prepared to take on the indoor tasks planned for the day.

But Sunday morning brought no rain.

Or cold.

In fact, it was quite sunny and beautiful outside.

I was, frankly, disappointed.

I’d made plans for a cold rainy day!

Time to Shift Plans

The bright light coming in through the windows was teasing my eyes, and there was no way I was about to tackle anything on that rainy-Sunday indoor list.

“Wanna go for a walk,” I asked, looking down at my dog, Georgie Girl, who as usual was lying at my feet.

So off we went.

But not for my usual get-your-heart-rate-up walk through the woods.

Instead I put on my boots and began a slow meander into the trees.

I’d deliberately left my phone at home on the kitchen counter; my only provision a handful of dog biscuits.

Usually, I head straight down the trail into the woods, but something called me to turn onto the path to the right.

We followed the path to the top of the hill and for a moment at the top, Georgie was out of sight.

I scanned the woods and caught sight of her over my right shoulder happily sniffing away.

When I took a step forward, I hesitated and thought maybe I should extend my wandering a bit, and looked over to the path to the left.

My head turned left, looked away and then quickly turned back again, allowing my eyes to adjust to what I saw.

Big Animal Surprise

“Well, hello,” I said aloud to the moose (!!!) standing about fifty yards away in between the trees.

Because I’d left my phone at home, I felt no desperate need to quickly capture a photo or video.

Instead I just stood for a moment and gazed, and he or she did the same in return.

Our gaze lasted a moment more, and then the lovely beast turned and walked off into the woods.

With a sigh and a smile, I turned and began walking toward my home.

a moose in the woods my animal spirit guide message

photo thanks to james fitzgerald on unsplash

A Magical Gift

What a magical gift I’d been given for honoring and meeting myself exactly where I was that morning.

I could have forced myself (with a little extra coffee and maybe some chocolate) to stick to the plan and tackle that list.

But my heart, mind, and soul had other desires.

So I gave myself permission to push that list aside, and follow my heart into the woods to meet a new friend.

And as you’ll see, the message I received from that animal spirit guide, Moose confirmed my decision.

Do you have animal spirit guides delivering you messages?

Do you need to slow down more and notice?

Is there anywhere in your life where you need to give yourself permission?

There are so many ways to discover the Magic in our lives,

and perhaps discovering if you have an animal spirit guide is one for you!

Back at home, here’s what I discovered Moose had to share with me!

Animal Spirit Guide Message

Moose symbolism is letting you know that you – and only you – have the authority to make your choices in life.​ Use your intuition and intelligence to see what fits and what does not. 

Pretty spot on, eh?

Want to play? Visit this site and find out what your animal spirit guides are trying to tell you!

Animals as Messengers

“When you begin to believe in the animals as spiritual teachers and messengers, it opens up a whole new dimension in your life. Animals suddenly become more than simple pets or companions. They become messengers, teachers, and holders of ancient wisdom and lore. Their spiritual messages give us guidance, teach us about our own journeys and unconditionally give us nourishment on all levels (physically, mentally, and spiritually) to help us sustain life and maintain balance with nature.

An animal can bring us a message in several ways. We can physically cross paths with it, we can dream about them, they can visit us in our meditations, or we can even have them as pets.”

May your coming days be full of Magic!

Want a little more inspiration?

Check out my recent blog post on the Benefits of Being Outdoors! 


Also, if you’re feeling called to take the next step in your life and considering Transformational Life Coaching, I’d love to set up a time to talk! 


And if you’re looking for Daily Doses of Inspiration, check out my Facebook Coaching Page!

How to Stop Feeling Overwhelmed

Do you want to know how to finally stop feeling Overwhelmed?

Then you are not alone!

I hear this from so many of my clients, fellow entrepreneurs, moms, and human beings. There is no shortage of “to-do’s” on our lists. From kids to spouses to work to family obligations…

Look, I know you’re already overwhelmed, so I won’t go there any more than you already have.

Instead, how about I help you move from Overwhelm to a Place of Ease?

Are you thinking, It’s just not possible for me to stop feeling overwhelmed?

Read on, dear friend. I promise you, hope in sight.

a woman holding her head in her hands because she feels so overwhelmed

photo thanks to ruslan bardash on unsplash

Today I’m sharing my 3 Simple, Tried-and-True Steps so you never again have to ask – How Do I Stop Feeling Overwhelmed?

THE 3 SIMPLE STEP OVERWHELM SOLUTION:

Step One: Write it Down

Write down everything.

Every little thing that you’re carrying around. From the big stuff to the tiniest! It all adds up leaving you feeling like it’s all just too much, aka Overwhelmed!

Use the Pour It Out Page in my Overwhelm Solution Guide and let it all out:

Kids are fighting all the time.

Work demands never end.

The house is so disorganized.

There is no end in sight to this “new normal.”

I haven’t done laundry in a week.

I don’t know what to make for dinner.

I can’t make time to workout.

I don’t even know what the heck self-care is anymore!

Often the Overwhelm living in you feels big and unmanageable. By getting it out of your body and down onto the page you’re no longer carrying it within your being. Allow the page to hold it for you.

Once you’ve excavated and gotten the Overwhelm out, then just simply notice.

How do you feel?

Is there anything you missed? If so, write it down. If not, take in a nice big breath through your nose and blow it all out of your mouth like you’re blowing out candles on a cake. Sit with that.

If you feel like you need it, breathe in and out again.

Once you feel the sensation of Ahhhh arrive with the breath, you’ll know you’re there.

Ok, now you know the next time you ask How do I stop feeling overwhelmed, what to do first!

So, are you ready for Step Two?

Step Two: Feel What You’re Feeling

Sounds so simple, right? But often feelings of Overwhelm are actually just bottled up emotions swirling through your system trying to get your attention and find their way to light.

How do you get them out? Feel them!!!

You know that sensation when there’s so much going on it almost feels like you’re not even in your body?

Like you’ve kind of “checked out” and saying to yourself “I just can’t take anymore.”

That is actually you NOT feeling what you’re feeling.

If you think about all the times throughout your life you were told NOT to feel your feelings, it makes perfect sense.

Don’t be sad. Don’t be scared. Don’t be angry. Don’t be (fill in the blank)

What if there was a different way?

Instead of denying your emotions, what if you embraced them instead? You actually FELT what you’re feeling!

How?

Great question!

Simply notice the emotion you’re feeling.

I’m so lonely.

I’m feeling sad.

I’m furious

Good. Where in your body do you feel that?

Pit in my stomach.

Good. Breathe right into that area.

Awareness and breath will help it move up and out.

When you acknowledge your feelings and breathe into them, you’re validating them and allowing them to move through you, rather than take up residence within you.

When you go with emotions, rather than fight against them, you allow yourself to feel the emotions, which in turn release them and prevent them from lodging in your physical body where they show up as total overwhelm.

Make sense? I know it sounds so simple, but please don’t be fooled. I’ve witnessed over and over again how this powerful process has enabled my coaching clients to make huge shifts in their lives.

Are YOU ready to make a huge shift in yours?

You can Find Step Three – Event + Response = Outcome in my  FREE Overwhelm Solution Guide HERE 

You got this!

If you feel like you want even more support, I’d love to talk to you more about Transformational Life Coaching and whether that would be a fit for you! Schedule a Complimentary Session to Explore Here

Why Do I Feel Stuck in Life?

Have you ever stopped to wonder what’s holding you back and ask yourself the question, “Why do I feel stuck in life?”

an open door representing the way to move forward when I feel stuck in life

Photo thanks to Jan Tinneberg on Unsplash

The other day it was so beautiful outside that I pushed my computer aside and called it done for the day.

“Done,” I announced, only to be heard by Georgie Girl resting in her usual place at my feet.

As I strode from my office through the kitchen, the new novel I was reading caught my eye. I was tempted to go sit out back in the Adirondack chair, but I was excited to move my body and instead of reading, decided to change into work clothes and head outside to tackle some spring clean up.

But just a few minutes later, as I stood at the back door in my work pants and tall rubber boots an old familiar feeling crept in. I heard that uncertain, wavering voice in my head say, “I don’t know where to start.”

I glanced back at my book on the counter.

Hmmm.

The moment reminded me of trying to find my way when Andie was in the NICU. Or as a brand new Mom after Tuck’s arrival. Times I felt uncertain and overwhelmed, and longed for someone to tell me what to do.

Still standing at the back door, I remembered a walk with newborn Tuck. I’d met a kind and caring older neighbor who shared a few of her best parenting words of wisdom, and I walked away with a little more certainty in my step. Then I thought of the NICU nurse who stopped everything she was doing in order to “teach me the ropes” and unveil some of the mystery of that hospital floor full of tiny babies and beeping machines.

In that quiet moment back in my kitchen standing at the back door, I remembered the words of my dear friend who lives down the road and has beautiful gardens in her yard. “Every spring I start by simply walking around the yard and gathering up fallen sticks.”

There it was. Simple guidance and a place for me to start.

That’s often all we really need, in those moments, right? Gentle guidance to help us take that first step when we hear that voice again asking, Why do I feel stuck in life?

So off I went, out the back door to take my first steps and simply begin collecting sticks.

Except…

…my friend doesn’t have a big Bernese Mountain dog helper, who also happens to be a stick collector!!!

 

 

So what about you?

Are there areas of your life where you feel stuck? Places where you’re reluctant and uncertain to take that first step?

In the loving words of Mr. Rogers, “Look for the helpers.”

You don’t have to walk these paths alone.

In nearly all circumstances, others have walked the path before you and there’s no need for you to reinvent the wheel. When you’re uncertain where to begin, how to take that first step, look for, ask for, and allow yourself to receive guidance in order to take that first step.

Then another.

And another.

Who knows where those steps may lead!


Had to share this most humbling and wonderful recent client testimonial…

“At this moment I am someone who doesn’t recognize who they were six months ago before I started working with Kasey! I was a person with dreams and desires but no goals. I knew I was meant for “more” but wasn’t sure what “more” was, or how to get there. It was all so vague, blurry and overwhelming. Initially I was trying to solve “the next step”, what it was and how I was going to get there. What it turned into was addressing problems with my mindset, limiting beliefs, self-talk and the story I had clung on to for decades too long. Before connecting with Kasey I couldn’t even articulate what it was that I actually needed…. I just knew that I needed help. My experience with Kasey was MAGICAL! Why? Because every day I’d have a moment of self-realization of the growth that has happened. Kasey provided an opportunity for me to dive deep below the surface to really unearth some dusty old beliefs I had created when I was much younger. Without cleaning up my beliefs, regardless of how much work I did to move forward, like a NASCAR race, I would keep coming back to the same place, over, and over, and over again…”

Read the rest of the testimonial, and many others, here – Testimonials 

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How to Live Your Best Life?

Are you ready to live your best life?

a happy woman living her best life

photo credit thanks to Hean Prinsloo on Unsplash

Then there is one word in particular that you should never use!

Want to know what it is?

It’s my least favorite word in the English language!

It’s the word that makes me want to scream whenever I hear it used in a sentence!

The word that makes me wince and realize action is required!

It’s the word that new clients often used when asked to describe their life!

It’s the word that will keep you from living your best life!

Ready to hear?

The word is…Fine.

Fine. Such a seemingly innocuous word, yet it’s so unwittingly powerful.

My loathing for that word began several years ago when I’d spent quite a bit of time picking out just the right outfit for a party (remember those?). Discarded outfits littered our bed until I’d finally found just the right one I felt really good in. Walking down the stairs into the kitchen, hubby, who was sitting at the kitchen island reading a ski magazine, looked up, and I asked him, “What do you think?”

To which he replied, “Fine.”

“Fine?” I said.

“Yeah, fine,” he repeated.

I remember squeezing the stair railing and drawing in a breath, and, well, let’s just say hubby knows better than to ever use that word to describe how I look again!

Another time I was in a coaching session with a client who was talking about her relationship with her spouse. As she talked about their marriage, the kids, the house, she sighed and then with a small shrug of her shoulders said, “Things are fine.”

I tried not to cringe, but she saw me and gave an embarrassed smile.

So, I asked, “Is fine working for you?”

She smiled again and shook her head. “No,” she said. “Fine is definitely not working for me.” And I watched as her eyes lit up with the realization that she was ready, and deserving of so much more.

What about you?

Are there areas of your life that you would describe as fine?

Are You ok with that?

You know I’m not! I want so much more for you!

I didn’t come here for fine, and neither did you, sweet friend! We’re here to live exceptional, outstanding, amazing knock-it-out-of-the-park life, magical lives!

Are you ready?

I dare you!

Don’t know where to begin?

Let’s talk!

Schedule a Free Session Here – Magical Living Discovery Session

I adore you and I want you to live your best life, so what are you waiting for?


Ready for More? Go check out this Important Question to Ask Yourself!

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