Do Thoughts Create Reality?

If I had to choose one single lesson to convey from my Transformational Life Coaching practice, it would be in response to the question “Do Thoughts Create Reality?”

My one simple answer is an unequivocal Yes. Your thoughts really do create your reality!

Here is a recent story in my own personal life that illustrates this case in point.

Proving Myself Right

The other day I was packing up the car for a road trip. It was going to be at least a five hour drive and we had to travel at night.

“Ugh, this is going to be the worst,” I muttered to myself while throwing a duffel bag into the back. I’d been dreading the drive for days.

But as I closed the hatch and stepped away from the car, I caught myself. This was an old pattern that I’d been trying to change creeping back in.

What I realized in that moment was that I was already creating “my truth” before the road trip had even begun. And once my reality had become my truth, I was sure as heck going to prove myself right.

I think most of us do this same type of thing quite a bit.

“Ugh, (fill in the blank) is going to be horrible/hard/long/scary/boring…
and once we’ve predetermined how an experience is going to be, we unconsciously set up the world around us to prove ourselves right.

Your Thoughts Do Create Your Reality

So here’s my invitation to you…

Pay attention. Notice when and where you have thoughts that may be creating a reality that you DO NOT wish to see.

And the next time you hear yourself creating that future truth, allow yourself to stay open to the possibility that with this new awareness and letting go of the need to prove yourself right, you may just end up being proven pleasantly wrong.

Our road trip turned out exactly that way!

Our son, Tucker called an hour into the trip and reported how the first couple innings of the Red Sox game had gone.

And for the next seven innings, he stayed on the phone and commentated the entire game for us, play by play!

That car drive flew by and the trip I’d been dreading is now a wonderful memory.

Think thoughts that create the reality use wish to see!

Think thoughts that create the reality use wish to see, like this amazing van!

Not my car, but a girl can dream, right?

Want more moments of inspiration in your days? Let’s play over on my Instagram Page!

What To Do When Someone Bothers You

Are you ready to learn what to do when someone bothers you?

Are you tired of just sticking your head in the sand and hoping that person will drop out of your life?

Then I have a simple tool to help you deal when someone is bothering you.

Ask yourself this:

Is there someone in my life getting under my skin these days?

A friend? Family member? Colleague?

They begin to speak and in your head you think, “Here we go again,“ or something along those lines?

Ugh. It never feels good to be in that place, does it?

If you’re ready to make a shift and take a different approach…

I’d like to share a tool I have found most helpful in these situations.

When your hear that negative voice in your head speaking up in regard to someone else…

1. Turn the mirror back on yourself

2. Ask yourself this simple question –

What about this person is being reflected back in me?

look back on self when someone bothers you

Most often what bothers us most in others, is something that bothers us about ourselves.

That friend who’s always interrupting in the middle of a conversation?

Oh wait, yeah, I tend to interrupt conversations and know this is something I need to work on.

There’s Dad on the phone again, telling me what to do.

Oh yeah, there I am on the phone with my kid, telling him what to do.

That woman at work who is always…

Are you picking up what I’m putting down?

Yes, I am inviting you to regard your frustration, aggravation and annoyance toward others as a gift and opportunity!

Hey, did you just roll your eyes at me?

Come on. Just give it a try and see what happens (and be sure to let me know!!!)

Put the question in your back pocket and pull it out the next time frustration with someone else arises.

What is this person mirroring back to me that I don’t care for about myself?

By taking responsibility for our own stuff we’re practicing forgiveness and compassion to ourselves and others, and it’s just another little way we as individuals can make the world a bit of a better place!


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And if you’re ready to take your life to a whole new level of Magical, schedule a free Discovery Session Today! 

Feel What You’re Feeling

What would happen if you gave yourself permission to feel what you’re feeling?

Well I’m giving myself permission, and I’m just going to say it…

I’m tired.

a tired woman feeling her feelings

Are you?

I was so excited to get “back to normal” – head to the gym for classes, meet friends for coffee, attend an in-person workshop – but disruption and uncertainty seem to be knocking on the front door again.

And every time I yell, “Go away!” they just don’t seem to listen, ya know?

I’m tired of “pivoting” and “getting creative” and “looking on the bright side”.

And yet, I know I will.

That’s what I do.

But not yet.

First, I will allow myself to be tired.

And angry. And annoyed. And upset. And anything else I’m feeling.

For as long as I need to.

Because I know what I resist will persist.

So rather than fight or deny these feelings, I will allow them and acknowledge them.

Because you and I both know, if I shove those feelings down in the dark, they’ll only breed and grow and find little ways to sneak out – fuming at a slow driver on the road, sighing when I get the trainee in the checkout line, berating myself when I wake up and discover I forgot to turn the dishwasher on the night before.

I will work to avoid all that, by giving myself full permission to feel all that I am feeling.

Plus, I will find time to rest.

And I will up my self-care game.

I’m visualizing myself on a raft that I’ve desperately been trying to paddle upstream against the current.

Instead, I will stop fighting against and go with. I will turn the raft in the opposite direction and flow with the current.

The act of writing these words down has already caused something within me to move and shift.

Because I’ve brought my truth to light.

Because I’ve opened up to others and allowed myself to be vulnerable.

I’m giving you permission to do the same.

Acknowledge and feel what you’re really feeling.

Ask yourself this simple question, and just listen for the answer from within. Give your body, mind and soul the opportunity to speak, and if you feel inspired, perhaps you’ll choose to write your answers down.

The truth is, I am feeling…

Don’t judge your response. Just notice.

Notice how you feel when you give yourself permission to feel what you’re feeling and bring those feelings to the light.


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I’m so Busy

Lately, whenever I ask folks how they doing, the standard answer seems to be, I’m so Busy.

Yup. It’s that time of year.

But I believe in the midst of our busyness, we can find moments to center and get quiet.

How can we find moments in the midst of the busyness to center and get quiet?

We do this by noticing.

Paying attention to what’s around us.

As you’re racing through the grocery store, take a moment to stand in front of the produce and see all the magnificent colors.

If you’re folding laundry, feel the textures of the clothing on your fingers.

When in your car, notice what you’re choosing to surround yourself with – negative news you’re barely listening to? Music you don’t necessarily find soothing? What about an inspirational podcast and a little aromatherapy to create your own sanctuary on wheels?

There are so many opportunities throughout your day when you can slow down, notice, and be more present.

This is self-care.

And it doesn’t require making an appointment for a manicure, pedicure or massage, it just requires you choosing to be more intentional in how you move throughout your days.

It’s truly a simple practice that can be deeply life changing.

The next time someone asks, How are you? take a moment to really notice.

Check in and ask yourself, How am I?

If you’re giving yourself these precious, soul-nourishing moments throughout your days, your answer most likely will be, “Good. I’m really good.”

After that, take that opportunity to sprinkle some of that magic on everyone else who needs to slow down and give themselves more moments to breathe.

Let’s be the ripples on the pond, spreading this self-care love out to those we meet throughout our days.

And notice, as you make space for these magical moments in your days, you’ll find that gratitude and appreciation flow in to fill that space.

And that’s a beautiful thing, especially during this “I’m so busy” time of year!

a woman enjoying quiet and centering time

​Looking to take a deeper dive? Check out the recent post on How to Start Your Day with a Positive Attitude!


My book, A Mom’s Guide to Creating a Magical Life, is especially perfect for this time of year as we transition into fall and back to school.

It’s full of thoughtful stories, engaging exercises, mantras and much needed breathing space.

If you haven’t already, think about ordering a copy as a gift for yourself or any other women in your life (maybe your kiddo’s new teacher?) who could use an influx of Magic!

A Mom's Guide to Creating a Magical Life Book

 

 

How to Start Your Day with Positive Attitude

Do you want to know how start your day with positive attitude?

It may not be as difficult as you think!

Only a few simple and easy changes may be all it takes!

Because how you show up matters, right?

a woman waking up with positive attitude

photo thanks to bruce mars of unsplash

Where to Start Your Day with Positive Attitude

First of all, have you thought much about how you begin each day?

The tone of day you’re setting by the way you begin?

Ready to bring in a bit of awareness?

So, let’s begin with a quick question – What’s the very first thing you do in the morning?

Do you reach over, grab your phone and see what text messages and emails arrived over night?

Or flip on the tv and start your day with a dose of morning news?

Jump out of bed and go from 0-60 to start the daily race of taking care of everyone else? Breakfasts, lunches, laundry, carpool, kitty litter…

Please don’t judge yourself. This is simply an invitation to begin noticing.

As you notice, ask yourself what is working and what is not.

Are you interested in making any changes?


A Real-World Example

One of my Transformational Life Coaching Clients shared a change she made to her morning routine to start her day with a more positive attitude.

She recognized that she had fallen into the habit of waking each day and immediately grabbing her phone, followed by turning on the tv and dousing herself with the morning news.

And then she reported feeling anxious and irritable throughout the day and agreed that a change in the way she began each day was worth examining.

Looking to create new habits that set a more positive tone for the day, she began waking a little earlier and beginning each day with a quiet meditation.

She reported that this small shift totally changed how she felt throughout the rest of her day.

More calm, centered and peaceful. More focused, productive and able to go with the flow.

And here’s the ever so beautiful part that caused my heart to sing with joy…

…she noticed her pre-teen daughter, who was waking up crabby and out of sorts nearly every day, began listening to the meditations with her.

“It has completely changed the tone of our mornings!” she said. “My daughter seems so much happier and centered each day.”

How gorgeous is that?


I believe in creating simple, realistic habits that will stick.

My morning routine is this: Upon waking, even before I’ve opened my eyes, I offer up a little mantra/prayer.

Then, when I place my feet on the floor, I reach for the glass of water I poured the night before.

Once teeth are brushed, I fill out my daily planner (you can get that here is you don’t already have it).

After that I pick up my book and continue my morning with a little reading.

I follow this simple routine which can take anywhere from just a few minutes to as long as I like, depending on the day ahead.

My phone is plugged in outside of the bedroom, and I’ll look at that screen on my time and my terms; once I feel more awake and ready to let the outside world in.

If it feels like you’re off to the races as soon as your feet hit the floor, set an alarm and get up a half hour earlier and give yourself that extra time.

Remember, you get to choose how you begin each and every day.

Can’t resist looking at your phone first thing, put it in a different room and turn off the notifications. Start small. Go for ten minutes after you wake up without looking. Even five, if ten feels too much.

Do you find yourself longing for the background noise of the tv or radio news? Switch it up and try an inspirational podcast or a bit of classical music for a change.

This is simply an invitation to notice your habitual behaviors and decide whether those habits are serving you.

And if not, make a shift.

You’ll be amazed to find how simple changes can have profound effects on your life.


Finally, I treasure your feedback! Email me at kasey@kaseymathews.com or leave a message on my Facebook Page! 

Please keep me posted on any progress, shifts or areas of struggles you’re encountering.

Small Habits Big Changes

Many people believe that in order to change their life, they have to take a huge leap. But that’s not true! Instead, the secret formula is Small Habits Big Changes!

As a Transformational Life Coach, I know for sure it’s simple, small habits that lead to big changes

So, here is an invitation…

…an invitation to evaluate where you currently are in your life, and assess what is working, and well, what not so much.

Hold up both hands flat in front of you with your palms facing up. Let one hand represent where you are now and raise the other hand 6, 10, 12 inches higher to represent the place you long to be.

Notice the space in between. Is there a lot of space? Space to fall. Space to lose hope. Space to give up.

This invitation is not about taking a big leap to close that gap.

Instead, this is an invitation to take small, doable steps forward.

Small Steps = Big Change

Small steps that become lasting habits. Small habits that create lasting change and get you to the place where you’re living the life of your dreams.

One small step, then another.

After that, another.

And another after that.

As you keep taking those small, habit-building steps, you’re creating and building new neural pathways in your brain.

What is one small and simple step you can take today?

taking a series of small steps which lead to big changes

photo thanks to brain mann on unsplash

What about a short walk outside to move your body?

Several glasses of water throughout the day?

You could make your bed?

Or call and connect with an old friend?

Sit quietly with your eyes closed for just a few minutes?

Play a piece of classical music while you sit down to answer emails?

Write in your journal?

Read a chapter in the book that’s been sitting on your bedside table since the spring?

You choose.

What’s the one step you’ll take today?

Then do it again tomorrow? And the day after that?

Remember, make it easy, realistic and doable.

And perhaps, after a while, you’ll be ready to take another step and add in another new, simple daily habit.

​Now hold up your two hands again in front of you and notice if that distance between your hands has closed a bit.

Above all, as you continue to take these small steps, at some point along the way, you may notice that you’ve made some significant shifts in your life.

Then prepare to take another step forward.

And then another.

If you’re feeling fully ready to jump in and close that gap in your life; to make amazing shifts and transform your life from ok to Magical, I have two coaching slots opening up in September.

Learn more about my Transformational Life Coaching Practice here, read Testimonials of past clients here and schedule your complimentary Discovery Call here.

How to Shift Your Mindset

Are you ready to shift your mindset and inspire others to do the same?

In a recent session with one of my Transformational Life Coaching Clients, the subject of family get-togethers came up.

She began talking about her family and offhandedly made the comment “Yeah, whenever my whole family gets together, it’s a total shit show.“

All my coaching clients know I’m a stickler about the language we choose to use.

I smiled at her and asked her to stop and think about what she’d just said; to take a moment and bring awareness to that language she’d spoken.

She smiled back at me and tilted her head to one side.

I pointed out that when she made that statement about her family get-togethers, she spoke it as if it was The Truth, and how when we speak The Truth or what we believe to be The Truth, we work really hard to prove ourselves right.

Her eyes got bigger, and I saw the lightbulb go off.

“Are you open to a new and different possibility this year?” I asked.

With a nodding head, she began to rephrase her statement.

Slowly and gently, we bounced words back-and-forth until a huge smile spread across her face, and she knew she had it.

“In the past, family get-togethers have been tough, but I’m open to the possibility that this get-together will be fun, joyous, and relaxing.“

Then she let out a big exhale.

We agreed to drop the first half of the statement, so she was left with these simple words…

“I am open to the possibility that my family get-together will be fun, joyous, and relaxing.“

We discussed further action steps she could take to ensure that she moved toward the event in a more deliberate and intentional way and brought in the golden rule – We can’t control how others show up and behave, but we can control how we choose to respond.

shift your mindset for a happy family gathering

photo thanks to tyler nix

“Remember,” I said to her, “The Universe is always listening. So let’s only say what we really want to be true.”

So, what about you?

Are there Truths you’re unconsciously telling yourself?

Think of this as an invitation… an invitation to shift your perspective, and open up to the possibility of recreating your Truth!


Two coaching spots will be opening in September (perfect for back to school and turning your focus on YOU) and I just added several Discovery Session Appointments to the August calendar!

These sessions are free, but limited, so first come first serve!

You can sign up and learn more about the sessions here – Magical Living Discovery Session

 

Feeling Vulnerable?

What to do when you’re feeling vulnerable?

For a lot of us, feeling vulnerable can stop us in our tracks.

But we don’t want to let that happen if we intend to live our best life, right?

My trick is that I try to get to the source of why I’m feeling vulnerable.

Here’s what I mean.

As most of you know by now, I recently launched a 30-Day Writing for Self-Care Challenge.

The challenge is off and running and going really well, but the truth is, it almost didn’t happen.

Creative Inspiration Arrived

The original idea for the writing challenge came to me on a walk.

The arrival of the idea initially brought much excitement and an influx of creativity.

I planned out daily prompts, created special cards and took photos of them in unique places.

But once the prompts were all chosen and it was time to send out the email invite, a teeny pit started to form in my belly.

“What if no one joins?” I thought to myself.

A picture emerged in my mind.

I was standing in the backyard. There were tables scattered across the lawn; one covered in drinks, one in desserts, another in little appetizers. I was in a long floral dress and had a huge smile on my face as I waited for everyone to show up. And I waited, and waited. But no one was arriving.

I stared out my office window and thought, “So what? I don’t care if anyone shows up.” And felt the old familiar amour of indifference blanketing my chest.

“Not this time,” I said out loud. “You’re not doing this. I DO care about this.”

Which meant I had work to do. I had to clear those fears and beliefs that were living in the recesses of my being, because I knew if I didn’t, I was on board the self-sabotage train and headed toward exactly what I didn’t want to see.

Later that day I utilized many of the tools I incorporate in my Transformational Life Coaching Sessions, including Ancestral Clearing, which, on that day, seemed to have the most profound effect.

It was in the middle of clearing those internal roadblocks, that I had a profound realization. I actually laughed out loud.

“This has nothing to do with me!” I shouted, upon which my pup, Georgie Girl jumped up and came running over.

As I rubbed her ears, I thought about all the times I’ve put myself out there, felt afraid, wanted to retreat and quit, and came back to my senses when I returned to my Why.

(I had gone through this exact scenario when I wrote my book, Preemie: Lessons in Love, Life and Motherhood)

This writing challenge was born out of my own desire to ignite my writing, but opening it up came from a desire to serve and inspire others and create a safe place to come together as a community.

I guess that’s reason enough to get out of my own way, right?

Which I did. And the challenge is off to a wonderful start, with over 275 amazing people from all over the world writing together!

And you are still more than welcome to join if it’s calling to your heart!

a woman in a field of flowers overcoming feelings of vulnerability

photo thanks to fanny gustafsson

We all self-sabotage and the more we excavate our fears and bring them to light where they melt away in the daylight, the more we will all become the best versions of ourselves and inspire others to do the same.

I believe whole-heartedly that when we as individuals take time to focus on becoming that best version of ourselves, ripples go out from us and positively influence those around us.

It’s how YOU, as one individual, has the power to change the world.

You’ve got this!!!

 

Is a Life Coach Worth It?

If you’re trying to decide if a life coach is worth it, perhaps this story from one of my recent client’s will help you decide!!!


a woman after working with a transformational life coach

Why I Chose to Work with a Life Coach

My entire life, I’ve been pivoting and changing from one thing to another.

When I started my business, I lacked any sort of direction, clarity, or sense of what I was truly good at.

In addition to rolling with whatever punches came my way, I was a glorified doormat for my clients, guilty of chronically undercharging, and feeling depleted because of my lack of boundaries. 

Ironically, I would’ve told you my self-care was impeccable! 

I had a therapist, I had friends, I’d worked with a business coach, but I knew I needed a different kind of help. 

I’d heard amazing things about Kasey Mathews from a friend who experienced her work as a Transformational Life Coach.

I watched all of the growth happening for my friend and spied enviously as she masterfully established boundaries with her own clients. I saw how she created self-care routines and habits that felt good to her.

As I cheered her on, I saw her vision grow and gain momentum, while simultaneously I was spinning my wheels wishing I could have those same successes.

My world was grey, my life was fine, but I knew something was missing.

I knew I was meant for more.  

After the initial Discovery Call with Kasey, I was sold.

She asked me to imagine myself in a Field of Possibility and envision a magic wand creating a world where I could have anything I like.

At first, I was frustrated because I didn’t know what that thing was, and I didn’t believe I could create the life of my dreams. But Kasey has a way of helping you to uncover what it is that’s lying underneath the surface.

She brings to light the difference between what you think you want, what others think you should have, do, be, and what YOU really want. 

And more importantly, she helps you to remove the limiting beliefs that stand in the way of moving towards what you want. So that true transformation and change can happen. 

My business and life look very different now.

The actual blueprint of my business is entirely different, with new clients and a clear direction and path. I’ve accepted my gifts and have been able to see for myself traits that I can tap into to truly help and support others in their growth as well through my work. 

Working with Kasey has: 

  • Improved my client and working relationships 
  • Grown my confidence 
  • Helped me to create self-care routines and habits that matter and feel right for ME
  • Show up more fully and present to my life and relationships
  • Helped me to find my voice in my personal and professional life 
  • Transformed my ability to own and share my truth 
  • Given me a completely different lens through which to view life

If you’re struggling with self-esteem, a relationship with your partner, knowing what to do with your business, getting clarity and direction, making the positive changes you know you need in life, and creating the life that YOU want to be living, I recommend working with Kasey Mathews as a Life Coach

The world and YOU are waiting for YOU. 


Does that help you decide if a life coach is worth it?

I am so truly humbled and grateful for those words. My client runs a very successful female-owned and female-run company and preferred not to have her name listed here, as she’d rather keep this part of her life quiet. Rest assured, all work with me is entirely confidential.

If you’re considering working with a Transformational Life Coach, I will happily offer you a complimentary, 45-minute Discovery Session. You can learn what the session will be like and schedule here – Magical Living Discovery Session.

And you can find testimonials from other client’s here – Client Testimonials.

 

I do this work because I know and believe the world needs strong, women leaders who are willing to stand up and share their gifts with the world.

Life Coaching is meant for all women – those who stay at home to raise their kids, run their own business, in or out of the home, work 9-5, share and spread their light through volunteer work or are in the process of discovering what their wanting to do in life.

When you live a life that you love, your light and energy radiate out from you and uplift and energize everyone in your world, which how you, as one individual, has the power to positively change the world!

So you tell me, do you think a life coach is worth it?

30-Day Writing for Self-Care Summer Challenge

I love to write. It’s my favorite form of self-care.

And yet, so often my journals, notebooks, pens and pencils sit untouched.

Why?

Why do I resist what I know is so good for me?

Do you do the same?

This summer I’ve decided to give myself a challenge. Write every day, for 30 days in a row.

But who wants to take on a challenge alone? Not me.

So, I decided to invite a few friends.

They LOVED the idea and asked if they could invite a few of their friends.

I started to feel super excited that I wouldn’t be writing alone!

Then I took a walk. (That’s where most of my inspired ideas arrive!)

Why not make this an offering for lots of other people to join? I thought to myself.

And thus was born… The 30 Day Writing for Self-Care Summer Challenge!

Will you join me?

HERE’S HOW IT WORKS:

First of all, this is totally FREE. No catches. No offers. Just me looking to get writing and hoping others will feel inspired to join!

Every day, for 30 days, I’ll send you a self-care writing prompt. You’ll receive the prompt as an email, but the prompts will also be shared in our private Facebook group (totally optional to join).

The prompts are intentionally designed to excavate the thoughts, feelings, dreams and desires that often get pushed deep down inside where they gather dust in the dark.

Let’s bring them to light and make some magic!

How Do I Sign Up?

Simply click the link below and you’ll receive all the details in your inbox!

30-Day Writing for Self-Care Summer Challenge