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I Finally Got It

Hello Sweet Friend,

I hope that summer is treating you well, and you’re enjoying every magical moment that comes your way!

If you’re like me, you probably hear it all the time – Just Be Present – right?

But does anyone ever tell you how to just be present?

Me, either.

But I think I may have figured out a way.

It happened recently at a concert with my hubby.

A 90’s throwback band was on a reunion tour and we’d bought tickets in the winter, long before we knew it was the night before we’d leave for a week long family vacation.

Needless to say, I had a few things to do that day, and we’d ended up arriving late for the show, walking up to the venue just as the warm-up band was playing the final notes of their encore.

Hearing those familiar notes I said, “Aw, I’m bummed we missed that.”

“I’m totally bummed,” hubby replied.

I kinda took his response like a kick to the gut.

As I followed him to our seats, I was thinking about how I could have managed my day differently so we’d made it to the show on time.

As the headliners emerged on stage, and the crowd started screaming, I was still wondering what I could have done differently.

As my hubby and the audience were all singing along to the familiar tunes, I was still in my head, replaying the day and how I could have gotten us there on time.

Three songs in, and I finally caught myself.

Hubby had turned to smile at me and squeeze my hand.

I’d squeezed and smiled back, but realized I was barely there.

What would you tell a coaching client who was in this situation? I’d asked myself.

And in that moment, I realized I had a choice. I could keep replaying the day in my head, or let it go.

And then these magical words floating across the screen of my mind – Oh well.

Oh well.

It was like an anchor around my neck fell away. Like the record player in my head finally shut off.

Oh well.

And then, I too began to dance and sing along.

Until…

A couple of songs later when my mind began listing off all the things that needed to happen tomorrow for us to leave.

But I caught myself pretty quickly and actually laughed out loud. I’d left the past for the present and then jumped right into the future!

We’ll see, were the words I heard next.

We’ll see.

And there is was!

A simple, beautiful, perfect mantra for calling myself back to the present moment.

Oh well, we’ll see.

I invite you to try it, or create something similar on your own.

Oh well, we’ll see.

And then open your eyes wide and witness all the Magic right in front of you!

My Least Favorite Word!

I was recently inspired to take to Facebook and record a quick video in which I spoke about my least favorite word in the English language.

What prompted this was a moment during a recent coaching session with one of my life-coaching clients. We were talking about her relationship with her hubby. “Things are fine,” she had said.

I tried not to wince, but she saw me.

Then we dove in and I shared my detest for that word… Fine.

“Fine?” I asked her. “And that’s working for you?”

She smiled shyly and shook her head. I watched as her eyes lit of up and the realization come over her. “No,” she had said. “Fine is not working for me.”

What about you?

Are there areas of your life that you would you describe as fine?

Are you ok with that?

I’m not!

I didn’t come here for fine. I came here for an exceptional, outstanding, terrific, fantastic, knock-it-out-of-the-park life, and I refuse to settle for fine!

(Can you tell I’m a little passionate about this?)

It all began the day my hubby and I were preparing to go to a wedding. I’d come down the stairs in a dress and heels and asked him how I looked. “Fine,” had been his response.

Can you guess mine?

Let’s just say, he doesn’t use that word anymore to describe my appearance!

And my coaching client? We came up with easy and practical changes and goals in regard to her marriage, which she recently described as “wonderful,” and added, “I kind of hadn’t noticed how we’d just fallen into a routine and settled for the same old, same old.”

What about you? Are there areas of your life you would describe as just fine? Are you ok with that? Do you want to make a shift?

If you’re ready… if fine is no longer acceptable, I’d love to help.

I’m offering 6 free life coaching sessions, and I’d love to give one to you!

We’ll meet over video, and explore what your knock-it-out-of-the-park-life looks like, any blocks and limiting beliefs that are keeping you from getting there, and create a road map that ensures you do. It really is magic and I’d love to share it with you!

This is my mission, my passion and my calling… to help others live exceptional lives full of love, joy, abundance.

First come, first serve, so schedule your session today 

You can also read more about my coaching here or email me at kasey@kaseymathews.com 

And watch the fb video here –

Setting the Tone

photo credit – David Mao on unsplash

What’s the first thing you do in the morning?

Do you grab your phone and see what text messages and emails arrived overnight?

Do you flip on the tv and start your day with a dose of morning news?

Do you jump out of bed and go from 0-60 to start the daily race of taking care of everyone else?

No judgement, truly. Just asking you to invite in some awareness.

One of my coaching clients shared the most beautiful moments with me the other day. She recognized that she had fallen in the habit of waking each day and immediately grabbing her phone, followed by turning on the tv and dosing herself with the morning news. Looking to create new habits that set a more positive tone for the day, she began waking a little earlier and beginning each day with a quiet meditation. She reports that it has totally changed how she feels throughout the rest of her day. And here’s the ever so beautiful part. She noticed that her pre-teen daughter was waking up crabby and out of sorts nearly every day, so rather than playing her meditation alone in her bedroom, my ever-so-wise client, now goes into her daughter’s room every morning and lies on her floor and plays her meditation there. She says that it has completely changed the tone of their mornings and her daughter leaves for school happy and centered. How gorgeous is that?

Now I know many of you say, but I don’t even know how to meditate. Really? Do you know how to sit on a chair? Or lie on the bed or the floor? Of course you do! Really, that’s it. Just give yourself a few moments of stillness. And if you like, play a piece of music that soothes your soul, or choose one of the many amazing free meditations from this great app – Insight Timer

Remember, you get to choose how you begin each and every day. Start to notice your habitual behaviors and decide whether those habits are serving you. And if not, make a shift. You may be amazed to find that these simple change can have profound effects on your life.