Music as Self-Care

How do you define self-care?

Many of us seem to think that self-care involves white terry-cloth robes, spa appointments, and day-long commitments.

But I believe true and deep self-care is made up of moments – simple, magical moments we give to ourselves throughout our days.

This past weekend my self-care practice was blasting soul-nourishing songs as I brought order to the house.

I must have played this one I Won’t Give Up six or seven times, singing at the top of my lungs.

The line… I see that you’ve come so far, to be right where you are, how old is your soul… brought tears and chills each and every time. God knows we’re worth it.

I invite you to put on a favorite piece of music and let it move you, in whatever way that may be…

…lying down and letting the music wash over you and tears flow out

…dancing in gorgeous circles around your living room

…moving to yoga

…sitting quietly

there is no right or wrong way.

It’s simply all about what feels right and true to you and your soul.

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Holiday Perfection


The December issue of Country Living Magazine is sitting on my kitchen counter.

On the cover, there’s a pretty white farmhouse.

In front of the house sits an old mint-green truck with a freshly cut Christmas tree on top. Every window on the house has a wreath with red bows and garland hangs from the porch rails.

I wonder what it must feel like to live in a house decorated like that.

I imagine how special it must feel to celebrate the holidays in a house like that.

I look around my house.

The tree is up, but there are no lights or ornaments yet.

I bought two wreaths but they’re sitting on the front porch floor.

My dining room table is covered with boxes of decorations and ornaments.

I look again at the magazine and wonder how other people do it.

How do they get their houses to look so perfect?

And I don’t mean just the houses in the magazines.

I mean all the houses I pass in my neighborhood and surrounding towns.

Where do they find the time to create such perfection?

It seems I go through this every year.

These feelings of being not good enough.

Of feeling overwhelmed.

Feeling exhausted before it’s all even started.

And then that voice in my head asks me, What is perfect?

Wasn’t it perfect last week getting to sit with my parents for all those uninterrupted hours after my Dad’s surgery?
(He’s home and doing really well)

Wasn’t it perfect driving to Vermont to meet my sister for a pre-holiday lunch and walk our dogs along the river?

Wasn’t it perfect sitting next to my girl at the latest Mother-Daughter flick at our local cinema?

Or even writing this email and sharing these thoughts with you?

I could have been hanging wreaths and putting up decorations, but look what I would have missed!

So instead of beating myself up, I’ll remind myself, and you, that what’s really perfect is slowing down, loving life exactly as it is, showing up exactly as we are and being present to yourself and those you love.

That, as far as I’m concerned, is Perfect.

Ask Yourself: What Do You Need

When our daughter was little, there were times when she was so out of sorts, I felt helpless in helping her.

One day, I opened up to a friend and shared this with her. In return, she offered the suggestion of asking our girl the simple question – What do you need?

That question became my magical go-to.

I remember the numerous times I knelt down, put my hands on her bony shoulders, and asked her, What do you need?

Often, she didn’t know, but the fact that I cared to ask and listen, seem to be exactly what she needed.

I offer this to you today, because so often, many of us find ourselves in times of uncertainty and feeling out of sorts.

This is an opportunity to ask ourselves this very question– What do I need?

And in response, just listen.

Let your voice from within tell you what you need.

Maybe you’ll hear:


A bath.

A good cry.

A long walk.

The cup of tea with a friend.

A turkey sandwich with lots of cranberry.

A romantic comedy.

A night out belly up to the bar with with a salted margarita.

A pillow to punch and get all my anger out.

What do you need?

Your turn.

Ask yourself – What do I need?

Write down the first things you just heard.

And let the Magic begin!

How to Respond with Gratitude

How to respond with gratitude

Last week, my life was full of Magical Moments – but probably not the kind you’re imagining.

On Monday, we discovered that we’d accidentally cut the gas line to the stove while doing some DYI landscaping (no explosions or injuries, thank God!)

Tuesday, the septic backed up and had to be pumped.

Wednesday, the plumbers arrived to repair the first-floor bathroom emergency and were back on Thursday when the problem reemerged.

Friday, the 12 yards of landscape stone arrived from an hour away and turned out to be the wrong stone.

You can’t make this stuff up, right?

So why in the world would I say I had a week full of Magical Moments?

Here’s how. I applied the Magic Formula that I learned years ago from Jack Canfield.

E + R + O
Event + Response + Outcome

Here how it works.

You can’t really control the events that happen in your life, right? i.e. cut gas line, septic backing up…

But what you can control is your Response to the Event, which in turn, controls/determines the Outcome.

That is where the Magic happens.

Last week I could have responded to the chaotic events by feeling all poor me. Instead, I put the Magic E + R = O formula to work and quickly changed to a response of gratitude. Gratitude that folks were able to respond so quickly, I got to meet so many helpful and friendly people, and our problems were solved.

Now it’s your turn!

Put this Magic Formula in your back pocket and carry it with you, so whenever an unexpected Event arises. You get to choose your Response and see how that affects the Outcome.

Here’s to hoping your days are full of even more Magical Moments as a result!

What is yoga to you?

What does yoga mean to you? A question to meditate on.

I was recently thinking about a yoga class where my teacher posed the question, “What is yoga to you?”  She wasn’t looking for any raised hands. The question was more of an offering; something to meditate upon throughout our practice.

As I began bending and twisting, I thought that yoga was just simply moving my body. Keeping it limber and flexible – stretching in response to all the driving and sitting I do.

As I kept moving, more bends and twists, my breaths grew deeper and fuller, and I could feel myself letting go of everything I’d carried in with me to class.

As I continued to bend and twist and breathe even more deeply, I felt me return to me. I felt myself remember who I was.  I felt the real me, deep inside of myself, awaken and smile up at me.

Because a lot of the time I forget. I forget the deep me hidden away inside. I’m just a busy body doing whatever it is I do.  Too busy to stop and say hello to that inner me.

I had found my answer. For me, yoga is simply… returning to me.

I didn’t raise my hand or share my answer with anyone else. I just tucked that knowledge in my pocket to know I can pull it out whenever I need a friendly nudge to get my body moving.

What about you? What is the movement that brings you back home to you? Is it a walk in nature? A run on a treadmill? Gentle movements on a mat? Maybe you’re not sure. Only one way to find out – start moving.

Because moving your body is one of the key elements in Igniting Your Magic!

The Power of Writing Down Your Dreams

The power of writing down your dreams

Last week, I was talking to a dear friend about all the changes he really wanted to make in his life.

“Write them down,” I told him.

In my coaching sessions, when my clients describe their dream life, I say to them, “Write it down.”

There is something so powerful about writing words on the page. It begins with the seeds of a wish; a thought you may dare to dream. But if you really want to make that wish a realization, I can’t urge you enough, Write it Down.

I know first-hand that this practice really works.

Eleven years ago, when we had to move from the 200-year-old home we so adored in Massachusetts to New Hampshire for a job change, I had the entire family, including six-year-old, Andie and eight-year-old, Tucker, write down exactly what they wanted in our new house.

We all wanted another old house. Andie wanted a bigger bedroom (hers was a closet in Mass), Tuck wanted a sledding hill, I asked for apple trees, stone walls and fireplaces and Lee wished for garages (he’s an old car nut), 25 acres, and ceilings that he wouldn’t bump his head on. And most importantly, we needed to be able to afford this dream house!

Writing down your wishes, goals and plans for the future can be a powerful way to set your intentions. Get your kids involved in intention setting when it effects the whole family! #intentions #goals #family

It’s was tempting for the “yeah, buts” to sneak in and list all the reasons why it would never happen, but after I wrote it down, I practiced saying the simple motto, Ask, Believe and Receive.

And no joke, the very first house we went to look at in NH, was 200 years old, had a sledding hill, big bedrooms, tall ceilings, garages, fireplaces, stonewalls, all on 25 acres and, best of all it had been sitting empty for over two years and the owners were looking to unload it!

I must admit, even I was surprised by this incredible manifestation, but since then, I’ve never doubted the power of asking for what you desire, by writing it down.

And when the “yeah buts” try to creep in, simply remind them that anything is possible and keep believing in your dream.
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3 Simple Tools to Help You Stay Balanced and Present

Stay balanced and present this summer

I don’t know about you, but Summer is my season.

The long, light-filled days nourish my soul and replenish my well.

I love the lack of structure and ease that comes with the more relaxed days.

And, yet, without the usual rhythm and routine of my days, I have to be even more deliberate about practicing the habits that keep me balanced, or I can easily become overwhelmed.

I have a super simple solution, which I call my 3 keys, that I utilize to bring just enough consistency, structure and self-care to my days.

So, whether you’re traveling, have a house full of guests, or a new puppy, like me, you’re able to stay grounded and present.

new puppy in our family

My 3 Keys to Creating a Magical Summer:

Movement – This is a must!!! 

It’s so easy to fall into the rhythm of hanging out on a beach towel with the kids, or spending lots of hours in the car driving to various activities – but your body needs to move, not only for the physical benefits but the mental clarity that movement brings as well.

Many of the folks I work with use the old, “Idon’thaveenoughtime” excuse, but inevitably, when we look more closely at their schedules, we’re always able to find at least 20 minutes for a walk or a quick yoga video, even if it means getting up a little earlier in the morning.

Meditation – Or sitting still time

If you already have a meditation practice, great. Stick with it.

If you do not, summer is a perfect time to get started.

Again, keep it simple. Set the timer on your phone for 5 minutes, put on a piece of relaxing music, plop down on a comfy chair, put both feet on the floor, take a few deep breaths and just be.

That’s it. So simple, yet the results can be profound. And if you want something a little more structured, I use this free meditation app Insight Timer and these are a couple of my favorite meditations: 

These three simple tips help me to stay balanced, even through the busy summer and back to school season. #selfcare #momlife #lifetips

Nourishment –

Summer days tend to be long and full of activity, so it’s a perfect time to nourish your body with fresh fruits and veggies from local farm stands and markets.

And be sure you’re keeping yourself well hydrated.

Remember, our bodies are made up of mostly water and energy flows freely through water. So drink up!

I always keep a big jug of water in my car and on the counter to fill my water bottle throughout the day. You may want to do the same.

That’s it!

3 simple tools to ensure you stay balanced and present throughout your summer days!

I always try to do my 3 keys as early as possible in the day, but have fun and do what works best for you!


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A Mom’s Guide to Creating a Magical Life Preorder Special!

Pre-order SpecialHello Dear Friend!

I hope this finds you well and soaking up every last minute of summer!

My thoughts are turning toward my book launch, as A Mom’s Guide to Creating a Magical Life is released nationally on September 10th

So…Between now and September 1st, when you Preorder A Mom’s Guide, you’ll also receive my online class, Ignite Your Magical Life, for Free! (It’s a $297 value)

I hope you take advantage of this opportunity and pass it along to family, friends and anyone else that you think could use a little more Magic in their life!

Many advised me against offering the course as a complimentary gift, saying that’s “crazy” or “it’s too much” but I am grateful for the support you have provided.  My new book and course go hand in hand, support each other beautifully, so I feel it’s important for you to have both. This gift comes straight from my heart to yours.

Click the link below and you’re on your way! Make your purchase from any of the retailers on the page and return to the page to add in your invoice or purchase number. The simple instructions are right on the page. 


A Mom's Guide to Creating a Magical Life is on pre-order! Order your copy now for delivery starting September 10th! Read this powerful book to help create more space, care and magic in your life. #momlife #selfcare #alittlemagic


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The Magic of Setting Intentions

The magic of setting intentions

Last week I walked into one of my favorite local bookshops (where I’m doing a reading in October!) and let my eyes linger on covers and titles, waiting to find just the right one, or for it to find me. 

I left with the book, Soulful Simplicity, by Courtney Carver, and I’ve been immersed for the past several days. It’s all about living more soulfully with less in our lives. As I read, I’ve been inspired to create more space in our home and began where I usually do – at my overflowing bookshelf.

As I pulled book after book off the shelf, deciding whether it still served me, if there was someone who could use it, or if I should donate it, I found the beautiful gratitude journal my sister had given me last year on my birthday. I had intended to use it throughout the year but had only filled in the first few pages. I was about to return it to the shelf when several cards fell out of the back of the book. I opened each one and realized they were all birthday cards – cards from last year’s “big” birthday.

Here’s the Magical part. 

They were all from friends and family who’d received my hubby’s request to forego sending gifts, and instead, gift me with an intention they’d hold for me for coming the year.

Don't miss this powerful story of setting intentions and making dreams come true! Take time to set your own intentions today! #intentions #goals #success

So here I am, one year later, rediscovering these gorgeous intentions and realizing what incredible gifts I have been given.

As my birthday gift to myself this year, I’m going to create new intentions for the coming year. With my son heading off to college, my daughter going through the application process, and me, putting a new book out in the world, I have lots to intend about!

I invite you to put this intention setting into practice. You don’t have to wait for your birthday to start. You can start today. What are your wishes, dreams and deepest desires for yourself and your family?

Creating and writing down our intentions is a powerful practice, made even more powerful when you begin your intention, I am so happy and grateful that…and then write your intention in the past tense as if it has already happened!

“I am so happy and grateful that my new book, A Mom’s Guide to Creating a Magical Life has touched the lives of women all over the world to live a more mindful and inspired life.”

Now it’s your turn!

Conscious Woman Rising

If you haven’t yet, please sign up for this incredible summit! I’m live tomorrow, and with it being my birthday, I know it will be Magical and you will leave feeling inspired!

If you’ve never done an online summit before, it’s as simple as signing up and receiving the materials via email. Everything is recorded and available to listen at your convenience. Hearing the summit host’s gorgeous Aussie accent is worth it alone, but you will gain so much more!

I have a really special giveaway that will be announced at the end of my session. 

I really hope you’ll give this gift to yourself and take advantage of this wonderful free summit!

You can sign up here:


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Raising Kids and Renovating Houses

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“Release your attachment to how things ‘ought’ to be and instead surrender to how they actually are.”
Dr. Shefali Tsabary

My husband and I are serial house renovators.

We’ve owned four old homes and our kids have never known one without crooked doors or slanted floors.

Obviously, we love old houses. But the problem is, there’s always work to be done. In other words, the work is never done. As soon as one project is complete, we’re already looking forward and preparing for the next.

The other day, my husband and I were outside walking around the house when he said, “We have so much to do.”

And that simple statement stopped me in my tracks.

For a moment, I knew he was right. But then I looked all around and allowed myself to see all that we had done, rather than all that we hadn’t. It was time to appreciate that. And I asked him to try and see our house through those eyes.

And he did.

We stood in our yard, side by side, looking around like we’d both put on new glasses.

Rather than seeing the landscaping we’d hadn’t done, we saw the aluminum siding we’d torn down and the beautiful clapboard that now took its place. We laughed about the dark brown garages that were now clean and painted white, and as we walked toward our new front porch with the two rockers just waiting for us, my husband let out a big exhale. He was seeing the Magic in what we had created.

As I leaned back in my rocking chair, I started thinking about how we need to do the same with our kids.

In this busy world we live in, we tend to look at all the things they’re not, rather than all the things they are.

Our children are not their spelling tests, SAT scores, soccer games, piano lessons, play dates, prom dates or to-do lists. They’re funny, wondrous, beautiful, amazing beings growing and learning right before our eyes. We just have to slow down, let out a big breath, shift our perspective and allow ourselves to see that.

To see the Magic of who our kids really are – not who they will be someday, but the amazing beings they are right here, right now.

Because the reality is, we’re all renovations in progress.  And from time to time, we need to stop, look around and appreciate all that we’ve accomplished to get to where we are right in this moment. We also need to do the same with our children, so we can model for them, how to do that for themselves.

That’s where we find the Magic.