Magical Moment: The Story I’m Telling Myself

I have a question for you?

Is there a not-so-nice sentence or phrase you repeatedly say to yourself, or about yourself? Something that you just casually put out there without thinking a whole lot about it? Something like – I’m such a klutz…or I’m an idiot…or I have the worst luck…or Here we go again…or What have I done now?

For years, mine was always – I’m so disorganized.

Over and over, I’d tell myself and anyone who’d listen, I’m so disorganized and then laugh and list off all my latest blunders to prove my point.

Kid’s school lunches left on the counter… Missed bill payments… Lost paperwork…Doctors calling to ask why I missed an appointment.

For years, I spun in circles chasing after an elusive feeling of organization that somehow seemed just beyond my grasp.

Until the day a new friend stopped by to visit.

We were standing at my kitchen island, and I casually waved my hand around and said as usual, I’m totally disorganized.

She stood quietly for a moment and looked down at the long, wooden kitchen island and then around at the rest of the kitchen and said, You look pretty organized to me.

I was about to tell her how mistaken she was, but something stopped me, and for a brief moment I paused just long enough to look around and see my house through her eyes.

To my surprise, I was looking at a pretty orderly space. If we’d started opening drawers and closets it would have been a different story, but for the most part, things looked pretty darn organized.

Photo credit Jessica Lewis

What the heck?

After my friend left, I slowly walked through the entire house, room by room, just noticing. It wasn’t going to win any awards, but for the most part, it was an organized house.

In the office, I opened one of the file cabinets. Manila folders lined up in an orderly fashion with labels affixed to each one. There was a pile of papers on top of the desk that needed to be filed, but still, there was a system in place to do so.

I remember standing all alone in the office and laughing to myself, then saying out loud, “I’m actually pretty organized.”

I’d told myself that disorganization story so often and so repeatedly, it had become a belief. Not only that, it was a belief I was putting out into the world, and I was unintentionally making sure I was proving myself right!

Back in that moment, I’d made a decision; a pledge of sorts. I will never, ever again say I’m disorganized. Or, in fact, make any other negative statements about myself.

What I had come to understand was that I was unintentionally creating exactly what I did not want to see in my life.

Do you ever do that? Without even realizing it? Put out the energetic energy of what you don’t want to attract into your life?

I’m such a klutz. I’m such an idiot. I have the worst luck. I’m terrible with money. Nothing ever works out for me. I’m so disorganized.

I remind myself, and my coaching clients, to remember that when we have limiting beliefs, we’re unconsciously setting everything up around ourselves to prove ourselves right. What we put out into the world, reflects back to us and becomes the world we see around us. In other words, We’re creating our own reality.

So what does it look like when we’re mindful of the language we use?

I’m getting more and more organized every day.

I’m conscious and mindful of how I move my body through my days.

Good love, energy, and opportunities are coming my way.

Your turn.

Start to notice. Where and when you do undermine yourself? No judgement. Just bring in awareness and see if you can turn that not so helpful thought around into a positive.

I’m here if you need any help!


Photo by Nicholas Sampson

Are You Ready to Dream Big?

What’s your deepest desire? Do you dare say it out loud? Or do you worry what people will think?

What if I were to tell you there’s so much more in store for your life? What if you opened yourself up to the possibility that you CAN have your deepest desire?

What if you gave yourself permission to allow yourself to dream big? Dream MUCH bigger than you’ve ever allowed yourself to dream before? If you need help to see the endless possibilities in store for you, I’d love to connect and have a conversation about where you currently are and help you paint the picture of where you’re dreaming to go.

Shoot me an email and we can set up a time to talk,

or book an online appointment HERE.

 

 

Magical Moment: Bad News?

I’ve been hearing from many of you lately that you’re feeling pretty tired.

Tired of isolation.

Tired of disruption.

Tired of bad news.

Tired of uncertainty.

Tired of… You fill the blank.

Yes, it’s a lot. And it’s exhausting… If we let it be.

Because in the midst of adversity there is opportunity. Opportunity to remind ourselves that we have choice.

The question is ~ Where does that choice exist?

We may not have the choice to go to work every day, or look for a new job, or fix our children breakfast and pack their lunches and get them ready for whatever version of school is happening that day, but we do have choice in the moments in between.

Are you taking time each day to move your body? I’m not talking an intense workout program (unless that’s your thing). How about a walk just a few doors down? Or simply standing on the front porch and allowing the sun to shine on your cheeks?

Are you choosing to fill a water glass or bottle and keep yourself hydrated throughout the day?

How about choosing to go to bed a little bit earlier so your tired body gets more of the sleep it needs?

Or wake up a few minutes earlier in the morning and sit in quiet meditation?

Where else can you find choice in your life?

Photo Credit: Debby Hudson @ Unsplash


I recently discovered a meditation that became a way to bring more light into the darkness I was experiencing. The recording addressed the fact that most of us are so focused on the bad news and negativity were hearing, we overlook all the positive that exists in our lives.

It takes but a few moments to remember all that is good, but the impact of the practice is profound. By remembering all that we love, and speaking those words out loud or writing them down or sharing them with a friend, we choose to let in the light and shift our perspective, which ultimately has a positive effect on the rest of the world.

What do you think? Are you willing to try?

I invite you to allow in a bit of light to shine in on those dark places.

Listen here ~​

​LIVE AWAKE: FEEDING THE HEART & CARING FOR GOODNESS​

I love…

…the sound of a pencil moving across the page

…the coconut cream foam on top of my morning coffee

…the play of light on Georgie’s whiskers in the afternoon sun

…our kitty Lulu curled up on the end of Andie’s bed

…the moss on the big rock just inside the woods

…the fall leaves changing color

What do YOU love?

I can’t wait to hear?

 

 

Magical Moment: Finding Away

I’m writing to you from the windy, white sandy beach of Cape Cod.

This was an unplanned vacation, rather it came from a place of Inspired Action.

August was a time of deep connection for our family and my Mama Heart was singing with joy.

Then the calendar turned the page toward fall, the light of days grew a bit shorter, and I watched our beautiful children depart as they began their new journeys in their lives – away from me.

My Mama Heart felt a deep mixture of excitement for them and sadness, loss and longing for myself.

There was a strong temptation to fill my days with things that would keep me busy, i.e. distracted from the grief  I was feeling. The other option – Door #2, that I’ve avoided for so many years, was to really feel what I was feeling.

So feeling I am. Which is what brought me, and Georgie Girl, to this tiny little studio cottage on the beach in Truro, Mass, with my notebooks, sharpened pencils, and an openness and willingness to surrender to whatever may emerge.

Perhaps I may even get a glimpse as to what New Beginnings are in store.

I’m curious about you.

What has this change in season meant for you?

What are you noticing? Feeling?

As always, I’m so grateful when you share your thoughts and musings.

I’m sending you tons of love.

 

In the meantime…

I had the honor of being a guest on amazing podcast called Grace and Growth.​

We went really deep and had amazing conversation about Anxiety, Speaking Your Truth, Taking Back Your Power, Boundaries, Limiting Beliefs and so much more.

You can listen HERE or wherever you get your podcasts.

I really hope you’ll have a listen, and if you like what you hear, please share with those you feel would benefit.

From my heart to yours,

Kasey

Magical Moment: Simplicity

Have you ever noticed that sometimes it’s the simplest moments that feel so profound?

Just last week, simply wandering the berry patches of a dear friend’s farm with my daughter, was pure Magic.

No agenda. No plan. But the conversation and connection were wonderful.

I often need to remind myself that there’s no need to PLAN for these moments, but rather to simply ALLOW for them to arrive.

When we slow down and are just available and present, MAGIC can really happen.

Know what I mean?

Any magical moments from your world to share?

To share, post over on the Facebook Page!

I can’t wait to hear!

Boy do we need ‘em these days, right?

Magical Moment: Mamas

Sweet Friend, it’s Mama’s Day on Sunday!

Have you done anything yet?

My brother, sister and I have for our own Mama, but I can’t say because she reads this newsletter!

Of course I have to promote and encourage you to send your Mom, and every Mama out there, my Mom’s Guide to Creating a Magical Life. It was made for this moment! Full of stories, exercises and ideas that encourage Moms to put themselves first for a change! One swipe of the keyboard and it can be in Mom’s mailbox by the weekend!

(Btw if you’re a grammar freak like me, I know the words Mom, Mama and Mother are not meant to be capitalized, but I do anyway because those words are too important not to! Agree?)


Many of you are Mamas, so what’s the plan for YOU this Sunday?

If you’re saying to yourself…

Oh, I’ll just wait and see what my hubby and kids come up with…

I encourage (beg) you to be a little more proactive than that!

Look, I love a plate of sticky, syrupy gluten-free pancakes in bed as much as the next Mama, but we’ve had a lot on our plate these days, and I don’t know about you (actually I think I do!) but I really need a break. If it takes a Hallmark holiday to get it, I’m going to claim it and milk it for all it’s worth ’cause come Monday, it’ll be back to three meals a day and lots of dishes.

So…the day is yours! What ‘cha thinking?

Hang on! Did I just hear you think, What would be fun for the kids?

No, Mama! What would be fun for you????

How about…

Sleeping till noon?

A morning movie in bed?

A quiet walk?

A family drive in the countryside with Bach streaming through the speakers?

A picnic lunch in a quiet park?

Your Day, Your Choice!

And for those of you that still need the reminder – Taking care of you is not selfish. The more you fill up your own cup, the more you have to share with others. Right?


Ok, this was a ball!!

I love this woman, Emily Aborn! She is a total dynamo! When she asked me to be on her podcast, I was beyond honored and excited!

I adored our conversation, and I know you will too!

There is a wonderful surprise for listeners – I created a brand new giveaway that you’re going to want to grab asap (especially these days!).

She Built This Podcast Interview


OK, Sweet Friend. Be well. Take good care of YOU. And please remember, I am here if you need support!

With love and blessings,

Kasey

Magical Moment: Good News

Hi Sweet Friend!

Last week I shared the newspaper article about my decision to give my books away to local moms.

Here is a quick video of the Magical Moment that followed as a result.

It totally made my heart sing, and I hope it does the same for you!

Book Giveaway Magical Moment

May your day be full of little moments of joy, peace, wellness, and of course, Magic.

Love and Blessings,

Kasey

Magical Moment: Can You Be Certain?

Photo by Matt Howard on Unsplash

Hey Sweet Friend,

I’ve been thinking a lot about you and wondering how you are.

How you’re adjusting to this “new normal.”

So much of this time reminds me of when our daughter, Andie was born so prematurely. That was a time full of so much uncertainty. It was scary, confusing and exhausting. Just like now.

There are times when I look back and wonder how I got through that period in our lives.

But the reality is, I just did. Because I didn’t have a choice.

The choice I did have, however, was how I showed up in the midst of the crisis. At first it wasn’t pretty – at all. But eventually I found my footing and started to recognize that there were practices I could put in place to support and sustain myself for the long journey ahead.

It’s the stuff I talk about all the time now. Creating structure in your days, making time for just you – ways to feed your soul and refill your depleted well – drinking lots of water, moving your body, sitting for a few quiet minutes and taking in some deep breaths.

So simple… yet a consistent daily practice is something certain we can rely on in the midst of times of uncertainty.

Lately, I’ve been thinking lots about all the moms at home with kids – juggling their work, making meals, teaching school and every other aspects of life falling on their shoulders right now. (Dads I know you’re out there doing your part, too!)

Climbing into bed last week, I had the idea that I wanted to somehow send my book, A Mom’s Guide to Creating a Magical Life to all the moms out there who needed a little something for themselves. A little gift and reminder that they matter and it’s ok to take a little time for themselves. But the post office was out of the question, so how would I get books to the people who need them most? I woke the next day and shared my idea with Lee. “I wish I could stand in our front yard and throw the books into the air and magically they’d land in the homes of all the moms who would benefit.”

From there the idea arrived that I could do this on a local level… put a whole bunch of books in a place where moms could come and take a copy.

The reporter who wrote an article when Preemie was first published kindly offered to write an article to help spread the word…

Local Author Offers Copies of Mindfulness Book for Free

Finally, it was quite a magical and powerful moment to sit side by side with my girl, Andie and listen to her answer questions written in asking about her experience as a former preemie.

An Interview With My Grown-Up Preemie Daughter

Much love,

Kasey

 

Magical Moment: One Day at a Time

Photo by Kelsey Knight on Unsplash

This is certainly a challenging time for us all, and now more than ever, we need to know that we are not alone.

First and foremost, please know that I am here for you. Truly. If you want to just talk or drop a note, if you need someone to listen, I am here.

As the outside world swirls with uncertainty and everything feels out of control, it’s a time to remind ourselves that even though we can’t control what is happening “out there,” we can control what is happening within ourselves.

Now more than ever I’d encourage you to turn to the rhythm and routine of a Daily Practice.

It does not need to be anything more than a few minutes of a consistent routine ~ something you do every day that your body, mind and spirit can count on.

For me, every morning I set aside time to fill out my Daily Planner, sit in front of the little meditation table I created, light a couple of candles, read the daily passage from my favorite book of devotions, read a forgiveness prayer out loud and then sit for a few minutes and let it all sink in.

Yesterday a particular passage from the daily reading really stood out to me. It spoke to the idea of allowing ourselves to be seen for our true self. I offer it to you as a little something on which to ponder as you move through your day.

From The Book of Awakening by Mark Nepo:

“I am humbled to admit that the only difference I see on Earth between being strong and weak is the honesty with which we face ourselves, accept ourselves, and share ourselves, blemishes and all.”

So what about you? Are you feeling called to create a Daily Practice? Is there a book of poetry you could turn to? A daily walk outdoors where you could take nice deep gulps of air and listen to the birds? How about a few minutes with some journal writing?

There is no right or wrong ~ this is what resonates with you and allows you the comfort of predicability and consistency when the rest of the world feels anything but.

If you already have a Daily Practice or you’re inspired to create one, please share so we can all benefit and grow together.

As many of you know, I’d been hosting a monthly virtual gathering called A Cup of Tea with Me. Given the isolation so many are experiencing, I decided it’s time to start that up again. But this month I’m going to make it an evening and replace the tea with wine. (You can bring your tea if you’re not a wine drinker!)

Interested in joining?

I’ll keep you posted when I choose an exact evening and time. I’m thinking Thursday evening, March 26th, but I’m not totally ready to commit to that date and will feel it out over the weekend. I’ll send out something early next week with a firm date, so keep an eye out for that email if this gathering sounds appealing to you.

We meet over Zoom and it’s kind of like the Brady Bunch. We each get our own little box on the screen and have the opportunity to interact with each other. Pretty cool that this technology is available for us to connect!

Stay well sweet friend and know that you are not alone.

 

Magical Moment: Managing Fear

As we all know, there is a lot of fear and uncertainty swirling around in the world right now.

It’s hard not to get swept up in the constant and ever-changing news reports.

I’ve really felt the impact lately, especially with our girl out on her gap year travels.

Yet, I always strive to show up as my best self and inspire others to do the same, and can’t do that if I’m full of fear and anxiety.

So it became apparent that I needed to make some changes in how I was moving through my days.

First of all, news alerts were constantly arriving in my inbox and every one was like a jolt of electricity to my nervous system. But guess who’d signed up to receive those alerts? Me. So I made the choice to unsubscribe. Don’t get me wrong, I’m staying informed, but now it’s on my terms. I choose to read the news when I’m ready. And that means I’m in a strong and centered frame of mind.

I’ve also chosen to stop watching television news. Watching meant I didn’t know what was going to come at me, and once again, leave me full of fear. Just another form of media where control was out of my hands.

In this newly aware state, I also noticed that long ago I’d set the New York Times as my browser homepage. They do an amazing job getting to the essence of a story, but every time I opened my computer, whether I chose to or not, I’d get glimpses of people in masks and hazmat suits and my hands would shake and my heart would race. Now I have my favorite home decorating website as my homepage setting, and I can switch over to news sites when I choose to do so.

I also remembered to breathe. To take those deep full breaths throughout the day that get me out of my head and back in my body. Plus, I take the time every morning to fill out my Magical Living Daily Planner which includes time to move my body, sit in stillness and drink lots of water.

Finally, I remind myself that we live in an uncertain world, and yet really, we always have. There just wasn’t a constant stream of noise reminding us of this from one moment to the next. Yet, we need to remember that we have choice. We get to choose how and when we expose ourselves to information.

Staying present when fear and uncertainty arrives is an ongoing practice, but by allowing ourselves to feel our fear, acknowledge it and move it through us, we can open ourselves back up to the healthy and welcome feelings of trust, gratitude and joy.

photo credit: Chris Ensey

What about you? Are there any changes you’d like to make? Tips, tools or tricks you have to share? Please reply here or over on the Facebook Page

Not Feeling the Magic?

Hey Friend ~

Reality is, some days, it’s pretty hard to find the Magic, right?

Even with all of my habits and systems and positive ways, there are just those days.

Maybe I didn’t sleep well. My back is sore. I can’t stop thinking about world events – especially when my daughter is traveling in the midst of them!

So what do I do on those days when I’m just not feeling the magic?

This…

 

I write.

I let the page hold all that I’m carrying.

And as the words find their way to the page, I feel space open within and my breath return.

Sometimes all it takes is making a list…

I’m afraid…

I want…

I need…

I wish…

I keep writing until I let out a big exhale and know I’ve hit a reset button, and I’m moving back to center.

Then I make myself a cup of tea and turn, as I do everyday, to my Magical Living Daily Planner, where I deliberately and intentionally allow myself to move forward with my day. (Is it time to dust yours off?)

And maybe Magic will show up after all.

If she does, I’m open to whatever she has in store for me.

​What about you? How do you hit the reset button when you’re having one of ​those days?

I’d love to hear!

Love and Blessings,

Kasey

P.S. I have two coaching spots that just opened up! If you’re ready to live a life full of ease, joy and purpose, we should talk. A limited number of complimentary discovery sessions were just added to the February calendar. If you’re interested, grab yours today!